4 ways to increase your self-worth
In today’s world our self worth can be summed up in the amount of clicks a post gets or likes it receives. When you strip away the hundreds or thousands, even millions of followers, likes, and temporary boosts of self-esteem what’s left? Without those reassuring voices confirming your elite status do you truly know your worth?
Self worth isn’t based on a particular set of skills you possess, your numerous achievements, a perfectly decorated house, or how much money you have in the bank. While those external circumstances may be something to be proud of, they don’t contribute to your self worth. Your worth comes from what’s inside of you, what you think you deserve - who you are at your core.
When you fully understand and like the person you are then you will reach a higher level of self worth. Self worth is what gives us the courage to walk away from an opportunity that doesn’t feel right and pursue something better. Whether it be a job, a relationship or an entire career. We are able to move on from something that no longer serves us with confidence that something else will come along.
This is not be mistaken with the person who is too lazy to get out of bed to make it to a job interview on time and thinks it’s fine to blow off an opportunity because another one will come along; that's borderline self sabotage.
A high level of self worth allows us to make decisions based on what we want because we believe we are worthy. If your self worth is low, you will most likely make decisions out of desperation or fear. People who have high levels of self worth are able to set healthy boundaries, make wiser choices, trust themselves, establish healthy relationships, and don't seek outside reassurance.
Just as Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
If you are working to increase your self worth here are four things to start doing right now.
1. Prove to yourself that you matter:
- Take responsibility for your thoughts and attitude toward yourself.
- Own up to your actions.
- Accept responsibility for your circumstances.
2. Prove to yourself that you can be trusted:
- Be true to your word.
- Don’t abandon yourself when you make a mistake.
- Don’t give up on yourself or your goals.
3. Prove to yourself that you are reliable:
- Follow through with your goals - start with the ones you set for the day ahead; when you tell yourself you are going to do something and you actually do it, you establish reliability.
4. Love yourself:
- Forgive yourself.
- Forgive others.
- Value your time.
- Make time for yourself not just for others.